We feel it. Fear about the future. Anxiety about the present. Worry about the unknown.

It feels like the boat is rocking. Storm blowing hard. Waves pushing fast.

We wonder, “How can I move forward, when I can’t see?” We ask, “How do I go back, when I feel alone?”

We call out to God, asking for His help, “Where are You? Do You care? Do You see me? How will You help me not drown?”

It feels impossible to stop the cycle of fear, once it begins.

two ways to avoid fearIt pulls us under, an insidious tug on our hearts. We can no longer see clearly, or even hear the truth of God.

Do you know the secret to not sinking, not drowning? Do you know what to do when life is hard and we don’t know how to lift our heads?

The secret is remembering, first, who we are, how we are made. “The Spirit of God has made me, And the breath of the Almighty gives me life” (Job 33:4). We remember we are formed by the very hands of God. We remember our breath is breathed into us by our Father. We remember that this is where life is.  And that there is no life in fear.

The second step is remembering that when we call out to God for help, our prayer is just the beginning of a conversation. We remember God is with us, ready to listen, wanting to communicate to the daughter whom He loves. We remember God is our Father, our King, our Friend who actually loves conversing with us—in a manner unique to each of us.

two ways to avoid fearStorms can be excruciating, yes. But in the midst of them we can believe by whom we are made and how God wants to bring us light and joy and hope. In John 14:27 we hear Jesus reassure us, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” Jesus has peace for us. He desires a conversation with us. Will we listen? Do we want a conversation with Him? Do we want to heed what He has to say?

I am challenged by Jesus’ reminder in Luke 6:46: “Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I tell you?” When we hear only our own voice crying out to Godwhen we don’t believe God is with us or we don’t wait on His response, fear is what drowns us. It feels impossible then to claim hope.

Yet there is more here for us, sisters. When our prayers with God are conversations—a sharing and a listening both, there is more life. More beauty. More joy. More peace. Perhaps it would help if we had examples of women who call out to God in the midst of their fears—women who call out to God for help and who listen for what He has to say back?

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the fear of infertility

Hannah fearMeet Hannah. Hannah walks the beach day after day, crying out to God. Her heart is aching to have a child. She has gone to countless doctors for over five years, injecting herself with fertility drugs, trying to get her body to accept and carry a baby in her womb. She struggles with God, wondering whether this dream she holds is one that she is supposed to continue to fight for or surrender. She is confused and hurt, wondering why she has a desire—a desire that she believes God has given her—while the realization of the dream is yet unfulfilled. This gets her to question desire at all, and doubt her dreams, and wonder where God is in the midst of this pain.

Hannah is afraid to trust her heart with this desire to want a child. She fears she wants too much. Do you need God to whisper to your heart about a similar fear, too?

the fear of low finances

Tessa fearMeet Tessa. Tessa watches her husband steadfastly look for God’s goodness. Tessa wonders that if she practiced looking for God, even in the midst of difficult and stressful times, she could find Him, too. Tessa and her husband have lost their jobs, and their home. She wonders if she has enough faith to trust God now. She fears she is alone in this storm.

Tessahomeless and without a jobbegs for God’s wisdom, encouragement, and hope. Would you like to know what He says to her, in the midst of stress and uncertainty?

the fear of illness

Samantha fearMeet Samantha. Samantha is being treated for possible breast cancer. She grew up knowing God. Her grandmother modeled his love to her, and she grew strong in faith and in love for Him, trusting in his presence with her, especially when she was desperate for Him to come and rescue. She waits on results from the technician regarding her breast exam, wondering if God is there with her as she waits. She asks God if He is with her, in the midst of uncertainty. She fears she is not okay with what is coming—with life’s hardship and trials.

Samantha is facing unknown results about her health. How do you need God to speak to you about health problems you are facing?

Hannah, Tessa, and Samantha have particular fears that might be different from the ones you personally face. Yet I bet you can relate to them, somehow. What produces life change in these women—and in us—is when our prayers are not just one-sided pleas. They are conversations.

Want to learn more about how to have conversations with God, with me?

In what way are you now struggling with fear? How are you excited to begin a conversation with God about it?

If you want to learn more about how to go about having a conversation with God, pre-order your copy of Breathing Eden: Conversations with God on Light, Fresh Air, and New Things. I think this book is going to change you. When you pre-order it, let me know by emailing me an image of your Amazon receipt (jennifer@gatherministries.com), and I will send you the first five chapters of Breathing Eden, as well as the free ebook, Prayers for the Women of Breathing Eden.
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  • Ansie
    Reply

    Dear Jennifer,
    Thank you for taking the time to post this!
    I know that God provides way above my needs.
    I know that in the turmoil I am in I must just constantly remind myself that this too shall pass!
    Thank you for providing an anchor in the mddle of my lonely ocean.

    • Sarah H
      Reply

      My fears are not life or death but they are real.
      I am afraid of failing to complete my projects at work and disappointing my boss, I am afraid of not being there for my Mom and saying or doing the right thing for her, I am afraid of hurting my husband so bad that he realizes I am not worth it, I am afraid of my boys not wanting to spend time with me when I get older. I guess I am afraid of loneliness and rejection and disapproval.

      • Laura
        Reply

        Oh how I know that fear of rejection. It’s a lie my sister. God has already accepted us. And to your statement “he will realize I’m not worth it” REALIZE that you are! You are royalty, a princess of the King of kings, made for a purpose. He loves you. When you find your identity in the fact that God made you, loves you and desires to be with you constantly, you will no longer fear rejection or failure because He is with you and helping you in all you do. I pray these words bless and encourage you ❤

        • Ansie
          Reply

          Laura! How I needed to hear this too! Thank you! My parents did not want me, so, yes, that God wants me is an ongoing daily struggle!

          • Laura

            Ansie, honey it’s unfortunate how many babies come in unwanted, but God knows just who to place on their paths to remind them that He wants them….oh how He wants us ❤ never forget that He smiles when He looks at you, the beauty He created just for Himself…you my dear sister are created in His glorious image…the crown of His creation.

          • Ansie

            Oh Laura,
            These are the first kind words I have heard in quite some time. Thank you for dripping Godly love into my so so empty heart!

          • Laura

            ❤❤❤❤ my heart is swelling with joy for you!!

          • Ansie

            Thank you Laura for giving me a reason to life!

          • Laura

            You have purpose in Him ❤

          • Laura

            Ansie, there’s a book called Captivating, by John and Stasi Eldredge…it changed my life and brought me so much healing and encouragement. I highly recommend it to every woman ❤

          • Ansie

            Thank you Laura. I will get it in the morning!

        • Connie Hawthorne
          Reply

          I thank you for this book, with so much that is going on in the homes and with your families
          dealing with your children x ten who acting like they are from another planet, it is very hard
          to keep up with. So I ask would you keep the families in prayer as well as I keep you and yours.????

        • Sarah H
          Reply

          Dear Laura and Ansie,
          It is so refreshing to read women encouraging each other rather than tearing them down. Thank you both! You are both on my gratitude list. ❣

          • Laura

            John 13:35….let’s show the world Who we follow!

          • Erica

            Yes Amen thank you so much ladies i agree its awsome to feel upliftment from people you dont even know. God bless you all

        • Kate
          Reply

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    • Jennifer Camp
      Reply

      Hi Anise! It is so beautiful how He gathers us together. So happy to meet you here, sister.

      • Ansie
        Reply

        Thank you Jennifer to taking the time to reply! May God shower ypu even more in His wisdom!

    • Ingrid Cross
      Reply

      Thank you my dear friend. I really needed to learn and know more about Fear.

  • yvette tyson
    Reply

    Dear Jennifer . I like the first loop that was teaching me how to pray. Because. I really don’t know how to. Or how to pray for my own problems

    • Jennifer Camp
      Reply

      Yvette, what I love to do, when I feel lost about how to pray, is to open up Psalms and begin praying those prayers. Have you ever tried that?

  • Robin Chambers
    Reply

    Thank you for posting. My husband and I are transitioming to a new state. Me first then him. Fears of driving in a place whete you know nothing. Not knowing a doctor, hairdresser or dentist. The constant new and nothing normal is overwhelming at times. There is new to learn everyday on the job. I’ve shed a few tears. But God blessed me with an amazing husband that is my calming in all of this upheavel.

    • Jennifer Camp
      Reply

      Hi Robin, yes, this is so hard. It is so scary to have to start over–all new. Praying now for peace to cover you now, sister–and for you to feel His presence with you as He brings community and light and hope to this new transition.

  • yvette tyson
    Reply

    I need those prayer. Dear God those one posted to my Emails

  • Sherri
    Reply

    These posts are so very timely. Twice this week, I woke up in the middle of the night with worry and rapid heart beat. Worry about my own adult children and their “worries”; worry about issues at work; worry about the lack of time; and worry about all that we hear on the news day in-day-out from politics, to terrorism and the infections that continue grow within our nation. Your encouragement and reminders that walking and talking with God are where the healing and calming begin and SOOOOOOOO appreciated.

  • linda kenyatta
    Reply

    I appreciate the word that I receive from Loop. It is like God speaking personally to me. God bless you!

    • Jennifer Camp
      Reply

      I love hearing this, Linda. I love how He whispers, completely personally, to our hearts!

      • Jennifer Camp
        Reply

        I love hearing this, Linda. I love how He whispers, completely personally, to our hearts!

  • Cherie Williams
    Reply

    I enjoy my Loop , it seems every time I am going through something my Loop comes and it is speaking to me about what I am going through at the time. It calms me and let’s me know the Lord does care and is watching over me. Thank you for Loop.
    Cherie

  • Edith
    Reply

    Dear Jennifer

    My fear is Lonliness and ABANDOMENT. I strive so hard to find a partner but I don’t wait for Gods choice of a partner. Instead I make the choice out of fear of being alone. I know the choice is wrong because I am in unhealthy relationships over and over.

    I ask the Lord to provide the man who is suitable as be The Lord hears the desire of my heart and that is to be with a man of deep faith.

    Please pray for me.

    Edith.

    • Jennifer Camp
      Reply

      Dear Edith,

      Yes, it feels so difficult to trust and be patient when our hearts yearn for love. We struggle to not seek it out on our own, by our own means. Our Father has such good for us–the very best plans for us. He wants to fill that hole in our hearts first, with His love. I pray for His presence to cover you and restore you to Him. You are His dear one. There is so much He wants to show You about Himself. He is love. He loves you and has such good for you. I pray for His help in waiting on Him first.

  • Sandy Soria
    Reply

    I try to be strong, pray, give my worries to the Lord our God for all our valleys but right now my youngest will be going away to college. We live in Ca. & she will be going to Baltimore Maryland. She has an opportunity to be a starting D1 shortstop player for Coppin State and in the nursing program……sounds great…..BUT the mother in me is terrified. Its so far, will she always stay in groups not wander alone, will she start her day with praise music, will she stay close to the Lord, will she be surrounded by loving kind people, will she be healthy , safe and at peace.? Will she be a light to others……. on and on. Then to survive the madness i give her to you Lord and remind myself that you created her and she belongs to you. That i need to walk by faith and not by sight. We leave on the 16th in 2 weeks. I pray for Gods over whelming surge of comfort and peace that she will be fine.

    Please lift my family up in prayer as we go through this transition of seperation, trusting in God with all our heart and soul.

    Sandy~♡♥♡

  • Laura
    Reply

    I use to fear I was inadequate in everything. I’m raising my 3 children and my 2 nephews and I use to fear that I didn’t have enough patience and love for all of them. Then I remembered when I feel like I’m running low on anything I just need to ask for a filling of the Holy Spirit. I have a saying a repeat that has helped me a lot “love is patient, love is kind, love is not easily angered. You are love and You are in me therefore I am patient, I am kind, and I am not easily angered.” Ladies, remember that God is as near as the air we breathe. As deep in us as our heart beat…He IS our life source! Be blessed ladies knowing He is with us always loving everything about us and helping us in our weaknesses.

    • Ansie
      Reply

      Thank you! I am memorising your answer verbatim!

    • Denise Daines
      Reply

      I like this. Thanks for sharing. I have learned to trust, however I struggle to know love.

  • ceri, amrshall
    Reply

    Loop emails helps me. I’m going through a lot at moment, my husband and i have separated, he his a christian but he as been violent and abusive over the last 19 years. I stand on the word of God that he can heal and restore but i don’t know if i can have him back. When he not like that he is a really nice and loving guy. He not like it all the time, it can go for months or even a couple of year and than something snaps in him. I do love him. please pray. thanks

    • Ansie
      Reply

      I was in a similar marraige for 23 years… It was worse than death to walk out! Now, I am alone, lonely at times but not being abused is a gift everyone should have! Hang in there. It gets better! God is now your husband…

      • ceri
        Reply

        Thanks for the in couragement it is hard. But praise God he will see me through

  • Maegan Kinney
    Reply

    My fear is health, I have been told I have endometriosis after dealing with pain for over 5 years. I fear the next steps as I anxiously await my doctors appointment in a couple weeks. I pray that after the surgery the endometriosis doesn’t hinder me from having children. I pray that the endometriosis does not return… Reading this today was perfect timing. I try to give my fears/ worries to God but sometimes they overwhelm me.

    Please lift me up in prayer.

    • Abby Oladimeji
      Reply

      Maegan,
      Give your fears to the Lord. I experienced the same kind of pain from endometriosis…had laparoscopy done to remove the offending endometrial linings that had also, apparently moved one of my ovaries to the other side and wrapped it up bad. After the laparoscopy, I was on Lupron injection for 6 months…think I took in between the last 2 injections and 5 years of waiting ended. Alleluia! Now I have a 12y/o son and a 10y/o daughter. There is nothing that God cannot do. Trust Him… Rest in Him… He’s able to do.

  • Nicole
    Reply

    Thank you beyond words for these words of encouragement and the reminder of God’s words to us anxiety of today and fear and worry of the unknown can plague me at times. The reminder of the power of God and the reality of his constant presence is exactly what I needed today.

  • Tracey McMichael
    Reply

    Heavenly Father,

    I thank you for your goodness and mercy. When even in the midst of confusion and uncertainty you let me know that I am not alone. You let me know that I am not less to You because of my human failings. You show me that there are others just as uncertain, some going through exactly what I am experiencing.

    I lift praises to you, knowing that it is in Your hands. Though I am still fearful, because I am human, You are showing me a better path.

    You control it all, and I place myself in your hands, requesting only peace.

    Thank you

  • Sandy Soria
    Reply

    Thank your Lord God for this sweet gift we have through Loop. Today’s message was a Devine appointment to share our fears. Thank you for giving us courage to be transparent and real when we share of these fears. May we be encouraging, loving and kind to each other and able to draw strength from your well. Lord thank you for loving us so much that you died willingly to save us. Give us boldness to praise you even when it is evident that we are facing our struggles. May we be a lamp post. In your holiness i pray. Amen

  • Lana
    Reply

    I received this message yesterday and it came in so timely but it was so difficult for me to grasp on it because my fears were drowning me…. I am fighting hard for my marriage, I know that is what I should do but sometimes I get overwhelmed by doubts…. will he love me again…. will the shadow of that woman be always present somewhere in the corner…. will he ever stop doubting that he made the right decision…. will he ever say it again: God gave me a good wife….

  • Alicia
    Reply

    I felt like God spoke to me through this now. My husband and I have lost 2 babies and we are fearful of trying again. My health is an issue as I have diabetes, I lost my job on Feb of this year so money is extremely tight as my hubs works alone. Please pray for God to help us through this and to be able to fall pregnant and deliver a healthy baby. Thank you. God bless

  • Jena
    Reply

    Your blog and book keep calling to me. At this point I am not sure what to do with . I am in a pretty dark place as I have been for a few years now. I feel like I’m being called to come home but my faith and beliefs have been shattered over the last few years and I can’t seem to find my way anymore. I have been pretty self-destructive most of my life and this has caused a lot of chaos in m relationships. I’ve been BLESSED with my husband whom I’ve been with for 27 years. How he’s managed to stay with me through all that I have done is truly a miracle. I don’t know why I am even writing this to you right now. The last thing I need is pity. What I need is help but help doesn’t work when it seems that deep inside I must truly want to stay this way. There is no other explanation for why I remain in the same dark places all the time, why I search them out, hide in them.

    • Denise Daines
      Reply

      Jena,
      You know I don’t know if you will get this. I have posted before but I am not sure if anybody reads or even knows how to get their responses. I don’t and I use to work in information system and I am even schooled in the area.

      Anyways it is the blaming yourself that you need to let go of. Look Proverbs 3:5-6. I would quote it but I’m not very good at that.

      Fear may not be the biggest concern for you right now. Please know there is help, it is hard to find, don’t give up hope God has a plan for you. Your story is unique and it is meant for good. I encourage you to surrender completely, admitting you don’t understand give the control back to God. He will guide you to healing.

      • Jena Pullin
        Reply

        Thank you for the reply. I wish I had the strength to fight. I’m trying to see a counselor from the church I used to attend but it’s hard when my faith is shattered. I have no foundation to stand on any longer. I’ve never believed I was good for anything, and everyday I continue behavior that reinforces that feeling.

        I am looking forward to reading this book though. Maybe it’ll be the start I need. I just feel like I’m supposed to read it.

        • Denise Daines
          Reply

          I am sure it will help. Keep looking for help and remember God is the only one you can truly count on. I am still searching myself. I’ve been through a lot of therapists and counselors. The funny thing just when I knew I needed help, I was told they couldn’t help me. I struggled many months and am still struggling, but I am not going to quit trying. God has gotten me this far and he will get me to where I need to be.
          Unfortunately it will not be in my timing. I have to be patient and wait.

  • Reply

    I’m trying to move into a full-time freelancing career. I believe this is God’s will – but I am so scared of failing and not having finances to feed, clothe, and educate my family. I am trying to trust God – but as the days go by, I wonder if he is listening or if I am just making things up.

  • Cindy Hutchison
    Reply

    Jennifer, I appreciate your words. I am a woman with grown children, and I have known Jesus nearly all of my life. I lost one of those children to cancer 8 years ago, when he was a very young man, ready to go to the uttermost parts of the earth for Jesus. At that time, I felt like God didn’t care, didn’t have our backs, and didn’t love us. While my husband and I have chosen to continue to love and serve the Lord – yes, there had to be a choice, there are still times when the heavens feel like brass, and it’s hard to not feel like the conversation is one sided. I appreciate your speaking to this, however, it makes me sad that when I got to the end, instead of a devotional, it was an advertisement for your book, and in order “get the rest of the story”, now I have to pay for it. I would appreciate just having complete devotionals.

  • CaShawnna
    Reply

    I am always floored by God & His timely Word. I am so in this place right now! I’m trusting God for great results, and fighting fear and doubt at the same time. It seems everything and every area require my intent focus. I need help, provision and wisdom. I need rest……… I’m tired, but others’ lives are dependent on my survival. So I have to endure. I need the Lord Jesus to help me with my tasks and goals. However, amid all that, I trust You Lord Jesus to do exceedingly, abundantly above all I can ask,think, or imagine according to the power that is already working in me, as declared in Ephesians 3:20.

  • Denise Daines
    Reply

    I struggle with trusting myself. I believe and trust everybody, then I get hurt. I just want to be loved and not alone in this vast world, yet the only people I attract are the 0nes that want to scam me.

    Why is it that some people can find love and others walk their whole life trying but never finding. I know I had never intended us to be alone so why are some people alone?

    I surrendered my life and yet I still fall for this scam artist. I go to a church camp and even there I’m able to find the one person that just wants to take advantage. Why is it that I can’t have love? Why does God not want me to be loved? What am I supposed to learn from this?

    Now I’m sure you’re wondering why I responded to the fear because I feel I can’t trust myself. I keep getting caught up in scams.

  • Eva Miller
    Reply

    Hi Denise,
    I know how intense the feelings of fear and uncertainty can be. But Gods word removes all shadows of doubt and reassures us of our secure place in Him.

    Sometimes it’s difficult to believe anything other then what we see, know, and experience, however God asks us to speak His words over ourselves and concerning our life. He wants us to think on the things that produce good thoughts that bring about all the great blessings His Word provides.

    You are so dear to Gods heart. He only wants to show you just how special you are to Him. People unfortunately will at times disappoint us or fail to measure up to our expectations but our God is Faithful and True. Lean on Him He can bear your weight. Trust Him with your whole heart and your days to come will be brighter than those which are behind you. Accept Gods divine wisdom, love and protection and it will never depart from you.

    Continue to read Gods word and ask for all that you feel you need. All things work together for your good when you love God and are called according to His purpose. Cast your cares upon Him. You are never alone, and you are always loved. For greater is He that is in thee, than he that is in the world.

    My beloved sister be encouraged pull closer in to God for He is a rewarder to them that diligently seek Him.

    • Denise Daines
      Reply

      Thank you, I am working on this. Sometimes the answers to my prayers are no as you may know. But I’ll continue along the path that he has designed for me. I know it’s been good sometimes I see that, other days are such a struggle it’s hard to even get up.

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